Necessary

"It isn't necessary" a friend of mine said when I offered to help him with something. But what really is necessary? Is it necessary for me to help a friend when he didn't ask for it? No, I suppose not. Is it necessary for a husband to buy his wife flowers? Perhaps not. I mean. He already knows she loves him, so what's the point of buying flowers right? Or is it necessary to help someone reach the top shelf in the grocery store? Offer a phone to the mail lady with a flat tire? Go into work on a Sunday because they need some extra help? It’s not "necessary" to do any of these things. But what if we only ever did what was absolutely necessary?  

If everyone only did what they deemed to be necessary this world would be a very dreary place. People would only do the absolute minimum to not get fired from their job, no one would help anyone in trouble because it wasn't in their best interest, relationships would fall apart because who wants to be friends with someone who only ever does what they deem to be "necessary"?

Everyone's definition of what is necessary is different. For some it's literally clothes on their back and food in their stomachs. For most teens these days it's the phone in their hand and money in their pocket. For me, well, from my perspective, going above and beyond for a friend, or anyone really, is always necessary. Though you may not call helping someone reach the top shelf, buying your wife flowers, or helping a friend when they don't ask for it "necessary" they should still be necessities. Sometimes the best things in life are the things you don't ask for, the things you don't expect, and the way you feel when you do something nice for someone without them having to ask and without expecting anything in return. There are a lot of things that are "necessary" in life. Being a good spouse, a good friend, a good employee, a good person, should always be one of them.